For Men

So you think she might be pregnant.  You have questions.  What are your options?  Where can you get information?  The following is information and advice that you should consider:

1.  Listen. The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about.

2.  Stay Calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.

3.  Talk about the pregnancy.  Not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.

4.  Gather the facts. Get current, unbiased information.  Speak with a professional who can answer your questions.

5.  Express yourself honestly.  You may have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear. These are all normal.  It is also important to make sure she knows she is not alone.

6.  Don’t run or try to avoid the situation. The more you run from or avoid this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

7.  Don’t pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. Both of you would do well to work as a team.

8.  You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input, give your thoughts, seek medically accurate and current information.

Mary's Outreach is there to support you.  We can provide you with answers and explore your options.  Call us at (727) 323-5100 for more information or an appointment.